I grew up going to church. I always had these certain values instilled in me that marriage is a beautiful thing given to us by God and that those kind of relationships are extremely special. My parents are an amazing example of what marriage looks like. My Nana and Pop who had about 56 years of marriage under their belt also an amazing example. My aunts and uncles also having these strong Christ centered marriages that over and over again proved to be strong, healthy, and happy.
I also grew up with amazing men. My father, who treats my mother so stinking well. My Pop who treated my Nana so well. My Uncles who treat my aunts so well. So Seeing these women I love so dearly being loved dearly by their husbands I have high standards. and Im not sorry for it.
I have people tell me I am too picky. I just need to go on dates. I just need to date somebody. I just need a boyfriend. I just need.... Fill in the blank and Ive probably heard it. Its not that I don't know some great guys that I know would treat me well, But If I know they arent the one I want to spend the rest of my life with, Why bother? Im not willing to just jump into a relationship with anyone cause theyre nice to me.
To me being marriage minded means, trusting God with relationships and If I don't see myself marrying them, than I simply do not continue a romantic relationship. I actively pray about it and when God closes a door or directs me towards another door, I trust him and follow in what I feel he is guiding me towards. It is also dating with the intention of marriage. Not that i'm marrying myself off to every guy I meet but If I take the step towards a serious relationship than I must see an a possible end result being marriage.
Being marriage minded isn't popular right now. (There is probably people marching against it right now as we speak) but Its how I function. I am not actively seeking a husband or a boyfriend, But Im actively praying for my future husband. I pray that God is taking care of him, and blessing him and holding him close. I pray the God will bring us together when his timing is right. Because I have talked about before trying to put my own schedule together and planning everything and nothing works out. I had planned 4-5 trips for this summer. Every single one of these didn't happen. But God used that to bring me different places I had not planned and I could not be more excited for some of my adventures coming up. Because God's hand was in all of it. Just Like I pray for God to be in any relationship I have or take on. I believe God has a will for me and for everyone. A good plan because he is good. I beleive if I am constant in prayer and trusting God's will, and if I follow his will that I'm his time will meet the man in his plan. All Within Gods will and plan for my life.
I know that before I can have a beautiful Christ Centered marriage I need to make sure Christ is the center of my life. So as you try to figure out relationships and friendships and dating and even marriage make sure your heart is centered and forever reaching for God, and he will guide the way. (and maybe find a cute husband along the way as well)
As humans we are so picky about our shoes, our sheets, the way we drink coffee, why aren't we equally as picky about someone we are going to spend the rest of our lives with? Thats a big commitment and I, personally, want it to be done once, and done right.